Never say this to your child!

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The fundamental message behind Lazy parenting has always been that we need to build a strong relationship with our children built on mutual respect. I strongly believe that it is impossible to raise healthy, happy, independent, empathetic young adults if our relationship with them doesn’t have this strong foundation. When our children don’t trust us, they don’t respect us. And that trust comes slowly, over time by us proving to our child that we are there for them in the good and bad times and that we always have their best interest at top of mind. Trust takes years to build but only an instant to break. And this goes both ways...it’s a message our kids need to understand, especially as they begin to gain independence and start to make their own decisions. They need to understand that when they break our trust through lies or deceit, it will take time to earn that trust back.

Now, understanding this and committing to this as the basis of all our parenting brings a new way of looking at our child’s behaviour. It means that we always have to look at our child’s behaviour from their perspective, from a lens of trying to understand the where and why the behaviour is coming from. And, being honest with ourselves that it is often our own constructs, our own hangups, our own issues from our own childhood that get in the way of this.

One of the times we often respond in a way that is not at all helpful is when our children are angry, upset, or crying and we say the words…

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The Parenting PIVOT - What Really Matters to Your Family? | #24

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Here we are - week TEN!

Let’s take a moment to think; what did our lives look like 3 months ago? What were our days filled with? What were our evenings filled with? What commitments outside the home did we have? What consumed our minds and brought us stress? What about our kids? These past few months have, if nothing else, showed us that things we thought were a given, really aren’t. Never again will there be snow days in school...instead, teachers and students will head online, into their portals, and e-portfolios and learning will continue. Crazy right? Just 3 months ago, snow days meant school was shut down, no work could be done, no learning could take place, parents had to figure out how to get out of work...now, parents can work from home in a way they may have never thought possible before COVID. Students and teachers now have a way to connect and stay on track in a way that was unfathomable only a couple of months ago. So...today my question for all of us - and the topic of today’s podcast is this “What really matters to you and your family?” The world is beginning to open back up. NOW is the time to re-evaluate your pre-COVID life and compare it to your life now. What do you miss? What don’t you miss? What do you never want to go back to doing? What do you want to ensure stays protected in your life moving forward? What about your kids? Now is our chance for a big reset...a chance to redesign our lives and to craft one that holds space for those things we really cherish and are passionate about and a chance for us to keep the things we don’t like, don’t miss, don’t want back away for good.

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A Parent's Guide to TikTok | #17

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So what is this app that your child is spending hours and hours on? You have heard them talk about it, you have seen them making up dances, and you see them spending hours and hours consuming content.

So what is Tiktok? Well, it is a free social media app that lets the user create, share and watch videos -- often to soundtracks of popular music. It has over 100 million users. And, it has become so popular that there are now Tiktok “celebrities” that are making 100’s of thousands of dollars in revenue creating content.

If you are like many parents, your child is probably on this app and you probably aren’t.

In today’s episode, I share my deep dive into this app, what I learned, what I saw, what I am concerned about and what I think are things you should be sure to educate yourself about if you choose to allow your child to use it.

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1. What is a lazy parent and WHY you NEED to be one.

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Lazy parents are slackers, right? They're the ones who don't parent their children and let them run wild, right? They're the ones whose kids cause YOUR kids so much trouble, right?

Wrong! 

Lazy parenting is actually a purposeful & intentional way to parent that is grounded in the importance of building a strong relationship between the parent and the child. At its core, it is a methodology that centers on the idea that we must teach our children how to take care of themselves and be independent.

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